The body is definitely the first thing anyone notices about a person. Even in matters of love, a girl with hot body is likely to attract a guy. That is, however, not the only factor that appeals to eyes of men. Relationships are not entirely based on external appearances, and therefore other thing such as personality, self-esteem, and wittiness have a lot to do with attracting men. That being said, here are 10 things in a woman that are more important to a man than her hot body.
1. Intelligence
Women are under the false perception that men like the idea of an intelligent woman, but they would rather not date one because they would feel intimidated. On the contrary, men want a woman who can challenge them on an intellectual level. Intelligent women are sexy, interesting, and they attract many men. No man wants to have an intellectually challenged bimbo who needs explanations and instructions for everything from how to use a blender to what’s going on in the news. If you know you are lacking in this area in any way, you can start by reading any type of books and within a short while, you will fall into the category of the intellectuals.
2. Confidence
Confidence is a good character trait to have if you want to attract a serious man into your life. Men are not attracted to wimps who hide in the shadows instead of stepping out with confidence. Always speak your mind, go after your goals, and make your intentions known in confidence if you want to attract a certain man. Men do not want a woman who is afraid and apologetic all the time, because such women end up being annoying. Confidence begets confidence, hence if you want to attract a seriously confident man, you also have to play the part.
3. Respectfulness
Nothing is more essential to a man in a relationship than a lady who shows him respect, paying little heed to the difference in the amounts on their paychecks. It does not matter if you work on the tenth floor with the board members while he is at the basement with the IT guys, men demand respect. An impolite lady is both ugly and undesirable to generally men. Men need the assurance that if they settle down with you, they will be able to make major decisions in the direction of your life together, but that cannot be the case if the women they want to settle down with do not respect them.
4. Ability To Listen
Men would rather date women who make deliberate efforts to understand what they say and try to communicate every time, as opposed to those who only see things from their perspective. When it comes to relationships, men always want to “wear the pants,” and this means that their words matter. However, a woman’s ability to listen does not mean that she has to agree with everything a man says, it means that she is willing to go out of her way to understand her man and work towards a compromise with him. Men know that a woman who can listen is a keeper and they will do everything they can to make them feel special every day.
5. Ambition
Gone are the days when women sat in the salon all day getting facials, getting their hair styled, and polishing their nails in the hope of becoming trophy wives. Men want their women to have dreams, goals, and self-drive. It does not matter if you two were sweethearts from the tenth grade; if you do not step up, he is going to leave you for his secretary whose ambition is to climb the corporate ladder. In fact, women started this whole revolution when they fought for equal rights. Men want a woman who is not afraid to get her hands dirty to get her own things and not depend on him for everything.
6. Caring
Most men put up a tough front especially when dealing with women, but they all secretly want someone who will love and care for them just like their mothers did. As much as men are wired to take up the strong protector role in the family, caring for your man will make him love you even more. Caring for your man shows that you are not only after his physical and financial well-being, but that you genuinely care about him. When you care for your man, you encourage him to care for you as well, and that is how you jump from being girlfriend material to becoming wife material.
7. Honesty And Faithfulness
Ask any man in a relationship what his number one deal breaker is and the chances are that he will say that it is dishonesty and unfaithfulness. Men want women who they can trust and depend on, regardless of the time or distance between them. Honesty and faithfulness are hard to come by these days, since people have put less weight on monogamy and more weight on their current feelings of infatuation and happiness. Men are territorial, they do not like to share their most important things especially their women. A man will most likely not forgive you if he finds out that you have not been faithful to him.
8. Sense Of Humor
No man wants a woman who is a bore. Men enjoy being with a woman who makes them laugh and have fun. An uptight, humorless person is intimidating and unpleasant to be around. If you are gloomy and serious all the time, men can mistake you for a snob and you’ll end up being single for a very long time. A good sense of humor is a big attraction to men, since they can interact with you, feel good around you, and even relax around you. If you feel that you have no sense of humor, watch some sitcoms, stand-up comedies, or funny movies and you might just pick up a few opening lines.
9. Cooking Skills
This is the big one. The modern independent woman has a five-bedroom mansion with six bathrooms and two kitchens, but she uses all the rooms in the house except the two kitchens. If you have a drawer in your kitchen full of take-out menus instead of recipes, you are the type of woman that men do not want. No man wants to host his parents for dinner only to have his woman order Chinese for them. Men want a woman who can cook up a storm and feed his whole clan should they happen to visit. You do not have to be a gourmet chef, but at least learn how to fry, sauté, boil, poach, steam, garnish, serve, and bake stuff.
10. Fashion Sense
Women love fashion and dressing up to feel good. Men do not particularly fancy the type of woman whose good day comprises of an oversized tee shirt and mummy jeans from the eighties. A woman should
dress to flatter her body so that she can attract the attention of a man. If you want to be seen as a woman, be fashion forward and dress to attract attention. The good thing with fashion nowadays is that you do not have to own a vogue collection closet straight out of the New York fashion week. Just dress to flatter your body, accessorize, and keep with the trends.
